I have often wondered why potty training is so unbelievably difficult, for something that is so um, normal.  I’ve heard it a million times from mothers and grandmothers about how “Their kids were potty trained long before age two.”  They simply cannot imagine why I have not actively started potty training my 18 month old boy.  Frankly, I just don’t buy this. 

I’m sure that there have been, and will continue to be kids who are potty trained this early, but that’s not what’s right for my boy.  Let us be honest, he is still struggling walking without falling over.  The thought of him trying to pee in a potty is frightening.  Not to mention that he has absolutely no interest whatsoever in the bathroom.  Besides splashing the toilet water all over the floor, oh and lets not forget unrolling the toilet paper roll.  That’s always a party.  He won’t even sit on the little trainer potty we have. 

Here is the thing, you don’t ever meet anyone over the age of about 4 or even 5 who isn’t potty trained.  This of course does not include special needs kids, I’m talking the vast majority of kids.  They all figure it out eventually, so why do we as parents feel the need to force it?  Actually, I get this too. 

I hate changing diapers as much as the rest of you.  But I don’t think trying to force it is good for anyone.  My point is really this, don’t worry about what your mom or grandma is trying to tell you.  Do what works for your family, and your kids.  Only you know what’s best for them- Period.  And if someone swears that their kid was potty trained at 6 months, smile, nod and congratulate them.  Then walk away.  Quickly.

-Stephanie Wright